Alignment

When you start developing a performance appraisal, you look to the mission statement, statement of values, or purpose statement to decide what values should be incorporated into your appraisal. In marriage, our actions often fall short of our values.

What are your values? How would you rank the following:
Love
Friendship
Humor
Sex
Equality
Quality time
Communication
Common interests
Spiritual connection

Look at how you ranked these items. If love was your number one marriage value, analyze how you act this out on a daily basis. Consider how you want your spouse to act out this value of yours.

Now, think about how your spouse would rate these items. Better yet, go ask your spouse to rank these items and have a conversation about both of your choices. Look at the values that you both share. Discuss how this affects your love language and COMmittment to each other.